“Understanding breeds empathy.”
Several of the readers of my last posting expressed they were totally unfamiliar with the Enneagram. The list below offers a general description of the nine personality types:
Type 1: The Reformer, Idealistic, Orderly, Perfectionistic Person.
Type 2: The Helper, The Concerned, Helpful Person.
Type 3. The Motivator, The Self-Assured, Ambitious Person.
Type 4. The Artist, The Creative, Individualist, Introverted Person.
Type 5. The Thinker, The Perceptive, Analytic, Eccentric Person.
Type 6. The Loyalist, The Likable, Loyal, Dependent Person.
Type 7. The Generalist, The Accomplished, Extroverted Person.
Type 8. The Leader, The Powerful, Expansive, Dictatorial Person.
Type 9. The Peacemaker, The Peaceful Reassuring, Passive Person.
In first looking over the list of types there is a temptation to quickly determine your personality type. Our friends who live in Houston attended several workshops with us on the Enneagram. In the group setting it was helpful to receive guidance from others to narrow down the type that best reflects who we are. We think this website they sent to us offers a great resource to assist you in determining your personality type. https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test
Based on the answers you check off, you will be shown the number that best suits you, describing your type.
You may ask why I feel so strongly about doing this exercise before determining my New Year’s resolution or moving to the next step of goal setting. The awareness of how we function in the world, why certain ways of doing things are important to us, have helped both my wife and me to have a better understanding of why we react to situations the way we do in our marriage, friendships and with our family. Before retirement it helped me in my communication with my clients.
I would like to quote Don Richard Riso author of Understanding the Enneagram.
“Although self-understanding is the most proper use of the Enneagram, naturally we will also want to use it to understand others” He goes on to say “Indeed, we want to use the Enneagram in our dealings with others precisely because it affords so much insight into them. Understanding others more profoundly allows us to appreciate the good we find in them as well as to become more objective about the things we do not like about them. Since we all tend to think that other people are basically like ourselves, it is helpful to realize that different types think and feel and act quite differently.”
In our marriage we have a lot in common but understanding each other on this level helps avoid conflict and gives us resources to fall back on to understand one another better.
I am a Type 3, the Motivator, I seek new experiences. I am ambitious and want to gather groups to do the things I like doing. My focus is the big picture. I move forward with the big idea and know the details will work themselves out.
My wife is a Type 1: The Reformer – Idealistic, Orderly and a Perfectionist. She wants a detailed plan. It has to be done right. It does not matter whether the task is large or small. No shortcuts if it affects quality.
An example of how we work together is in writing and releasing this blog. I get up early, determine a topic, and start writing. I do not spend time making corrections. I just want to get it finished. When she reads my first draft of my blog, she goes over it carefully checking the details and correcting my errors. I may be the ambitious motivator, but Jeanne’s assistance is invaluable.
I encourage you to consider sharing this blog with family and friends.
There are no good or bad types. It is just about learning more about ourselves and the people in our lives.