Most people listen to the news daily at least once but often repeatedly and become inundated with the problems in our cities and in the world. Social interactions often focus on these events magnifying fears and anxieties subconsciously and often times consciously. Yes we are living in times of events and circumstances that can cause concern and leave us in a state of constant fear and trepidation. I can relate to this because I was once controlled by fear. I now focus on the many tools available to me from my toolbox to assist me in rising above this negative feeling or moving forward through it. I refuse to let fear control my life as it once did. My tool is dream work. It enables me to turn a nightmare into an opportunity for abundance.
My mother was a loving person who encouraged me in whatever I wanted to pursue. Never once did she tell me an idea or goal was impossible to achieve. She tried to hide the fact that she had many fears that she had never faced. I later learned that in her early childhood she was alone in the house when lighting hit the tree next to the house and caught the tree on fire. She said the noise alone of the bolt of lightning striking the tree sounded like a bomb exploding in their yard. When I was a young child and bad weather would occur she would not say anything but would immediately disappear into another room. Even though she tried to hide her fear I sensed it and I subconsciously took it on. And of course that fear manifested itself in many areas. Her mother, my grandmother with whom I spent a lot of time, would never speak on a telephone even though two of her sons lived in California. So the fear was generational!
That fear made itself known to me in dreams. I would release a loud scream during these fearful nightmares. This began at a very young age and continued into my adult years. It was always the same dream. In this recurring dream I was a young child walking with a lit candle to go to the bathroom in a totally dark house. Someone would sneak up behind me and blow it out. As an adult I would be in my car unable to lock the doors and someone would get in the backseat attempting to rob me.
Therapy helped me talk about my fears but the issue got resolved with the help of a Jesuit priest. He was progressive in his spiritual direction and explored many techniques. Often during a session he would hypnotize me to get me back into the dream and allow me to bring the dream to a calm, helpful conclusion replacing the ending in my sleep state in which I was screaming. This was the first time I was able to get to the root of the issue and release the fear. I believe it is only when we are willing to address what is limiting us in our personal growth that we can truly live a life of abundance.
This priest introduced me to The Dream Book by Betty Bethards and encouraged me to write down my dreams immediately upon awakening. In the book she says," You can learn to remember your dreams, recognize their meaning, and use them for inspiration and problem solving. They tell you what you are doing right and how to change what needs to be changed." This book has symbolic explanations for the things we dream about.
Ever since my session over 20 years ago with Fr. Larry I have written my dreams as soon as I awaken. Much guidance comes to me in my dreams to assist me in living life to the fullest, releasing fear and anxiety. Many times I receive symbols in my dreams that help me understand the guidance I am being given in response to the answers I seek in prayer.
I have given each of the older grandchildren a copy of this book. The two six-year old boys will often tell me when they see me, “Pops let me tell you my dream so you can tell me what it means.” Hopefully this tool will assist them in dealing with life's issues at an early age and will enable them to move past the negativity in the world to inner peace and faith in the abundance available to each of us.