Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.
August 19, 1967 was a day that I had no doubt that God was present in my life. I still feel that way as we begin day one of our 50th year of celebrating our marriage and love we share for one another. I want to express my appreciation for the other half of Positive Pops, my wife in this posting.
We are a living proof that opposites attract and with hard work, communication and flexibility it can be a wonderful life together. We have been told by our spiritual intuitive friend Mary Jo “We came into this life to ride a bicycle for two.” Our friends and family say we are a Velcro couple because we enjoy and do so much together. We’re not sure if they mean that as a compliment or not!
My gift of being positive, creative and enthusiastic about experiencing everything certainly challenges someone who enjoys being home and is perfectly content to occasionally go out to a movie or a restaurant. Jeanne loves creating memories for the grandchildren by keeping photo albums from their birth to their current age for all eight of them. She is the behind the scene editor of my blog postings and she is a fantastic cook. Sometimes it seems the sound of the washing machine is music to her ears! Our children can verify that.
In spite of our differences in our comfort zones we have both learned to be flexible. We have traveled around the country and taken several trips to Europe. We have a social network of young minded seniors, the Good Timers, who enjoy eating out, attending theater, dancing, and actually innumerable events just to have “a good time.” I have also learned to enjoy quiet, down time at home.
The keys to any successful experience in life include determination, tools, discipline and a driving passion to succeed. That is why I offer the readers of my blog many different tools from my toolbox that I have used with success. These same tools can be used to make a good marriage great, especially if we are both embracing them. For example our Dream Board is done together so we can manifest in our lives what we both enjoy doing.
Since I am talking today about our celebration of marriage I scanned our bookcases in the Living Room and quickly noticed a book co-authored by Fr. Charles Gallagher Embodied in Love. In our early years of marriage we were blessed to work closely with him for five years giving Marriage Encounter weekends and workshops. He was driven by his passion to make good marriages great.
Another quote in the book Embodied in Love is from, Andrew Greely author of The Denominational Society, “The perception of intimacy between the parents was the key factor more important than sending the children to Catholic (or any other denomination) schools, more important than family prayers, more important even than the parents’ going regularly to Sunday mass.”
One of Fr. Chuck’s memorable sayings was "The most important gift you can give to your children is for them to see the love you have for one another."
These same words come alive in creating great friendships and a close knit family. When we gather around people who appreciate us and bring out the best in us God’s presence becomes real. It is this environment this world is hungry to experience. We may feel helpless with the negativity in the news but we can be a positive influence by loving and being truly present to the people with whom we choose to spend our time.
Today you may want to write a note to someone you are close to and let them know a quality in them that you admire. For those of you enjoying wedded bliss you may want to write a love letter expressing the gift of that special relationship in your life and the qualities in that person that you truly experience and appreciate.
Great things are happening all around us. When we lose focus on our blessings we begin to magnify the negative things happening in our lives and in the world. Lately the local and world news could certainly put even an optimistic preacher like Joel Osteen in a state of despair.
Yesterday we watched our grandchildren while their parents went to the orientation for a new school their children will attend this year. When their parents came back home they were so fired up and excited it seemed as though they had just attended a motivational seminar.
All schools are confronted with the same challenges of educating young leaders who can and will change the world. The difference in their experience with this school is the positive approach by the great leadership. Teachers are inspired to be the best they can be for their students. These motivated teachers will influence their students to achieve higher levels of learning than they thought they were capable of attaining. In this kind of environment positive leaders are molded. Experiencing their excitement motivated me to reassess how I evaluate success in my own endeavors and implement the following changes in my mindset.
By doing these things I hope to become a true influence for positive change.
Inspiring Motivational Quotes on Leadership
Jeff Haden, Contributing Editor, Inc.
Here are some of my favorite leadership quotes. Tweet them, share them, but most important, use them to help you become an even better leader than you already are:
I want to thank so many of my readers who have offered me support by writing in the comment section or sending me emails with positive resource information. As a result of being given that information I have increased my resources in my toolbox that I can share with others. A recent resource I received is a guide offered by Harvard Medical on Positive Psychology. One topic of immediate interest was Feeling Young at Heart May Help You to Live Longer.
You may want to jot down your leadership attributes and how you can influence others through your example. Many of those leaders are living under your roof.
"When a man's willing and eager, God joins in." Aeschylus
I habitually surround myself around people who have a passion for what they do. Their excitement for life is contagious and it gives me hope for a brighter future.
Being retired has offered me many blessings. I enjoy reflecting on the many opportunities I experienced that supported my positive thinking. I am grateful that the grandchildren have expressed how much they appreciate that quality of mine.
One of the grandchildren wrote in an assignment at school that I was very influential in his life. I asked him to tell me more precisely what was it in me that influenced him to select me. He said he observed that I always have a smile on my face and just naturally see the positive things in life. Needless to say I am humbled by that recognition.
As I open my toolbox to get ideas to write for my blog I'm amazed at all of the personal and spiritual growth experiences my wife and I have participated in during the 49 years of our marriage. We have consistently attended workshops and lectures on personal development, marriage enrichment, nutritional needs for optimum health and vitality, alternative solutions to healing and wellness.
For those serious about living the life of your dreams I would like to encourage you to connect with like-minded people, attend seminars, and read books that support your goals and dreams.
The next step is critical. Unfortunately it is where I see so many people give up on their dreams. They research ideas and become aware of the necessary steps to create the life of their dreams but they do not follow through by taking action.
It is one thing to read inspirational books or attend a seminar to experience a 24-hour high. Many people become addicted to experiences that get them excited and motivated but they do not implement the ideas and recommendations into their daily lives. Achieving the life of your dreams requires taking those tools that are realistic for your capabilities and resources and initiate your action plan. It may be just a small step initially but its forward movement. Remember to achieve a major shift it typically requires doing a 90-day commitment. Once you have accomplished that it becomes a way of life.
The one person that helped me the most in taking action was Dr. Wayne Dyer. I have all of his books in my library of inspirational writers. The one book by Dr. Dyer I took from my toolbox today is Excuses Begone! (How to change lifelong, self-defeating thinking habits.)
The following is a quote from this book.
“Enthusiasm Overcomes Excuses
Passion is a feeling that tells you: this is the right thing to do. Nothing can stand in my way. It doesn't matter what anyone else says. This feeling is so good that it cannot be ignored. I'm going to follow my bliss and act upon this glorious sensation of joy.
Excuses, on the other hand, communicate the opposite message: I don't necessarily have to follow through-look at how dull all of this is anyway. This isn't very important; if it was, I'd be excited about it. I'll drop it for now; I can always do it later. This isn't for me; I'll just finish it quickly and get it over with.”
Today is a great day to start living out your life passions. Everyone will benefit. People want to surround themselves around people that are excited about life. I know that I do!
It is always great hearing from you in the comment section to learn what you are doing to support you in living the life of your dreams.