When the well is dry, we know the worth of water.”
― Benjamin Franklin
What to do when the well runs dry? This is a difficult challenge for a Three personality on the Enneagram. There are times in life when everything seems to be at a standstill and the tools to create a life of abundance are not working. Being success driven person with a lifetime of sales experience this stagnation gives me a double blow.
I am currently reading a daily meditation from Fr. Rohr's book A Spring Within. Coincidentally his writings are now focused on the Enneagram and the today’s reflection was on the Type Three: The Need to Succeed. To order Spring Within click below:
Threes are the most disconnected from their own feelings and the most in tune to the feelings of a group or audience. Threes have a strong need to succeed, and they often do. They thrive on praise, recognition, and admiration. Mature Threes are able to use their tremendous gifts and energy to help other people competently and effectively, and to motivate them to discover their own potential.
Reading this about my personality lifted my spirits. I have often reflected on this but needed to once again instill this information in my mind and heart. It helped me to connect with my feelings that surfaced when the following events happened. Once I recognized the suppressed feelings I was able to move forward in spite of the challenges.
The following were the events that happened that put a dark cloud over my energy level:
Last month we were surprised when our CPA called and said we were getting nice refunds on our federal and state taxes. The Federal tax refund was deposited and within days we learned our car needed major repairs. The next thing was scheduling an appointment for major dental work. The combination of the two used up the entire federal refund with some expenses not covered. The next day I received a letter from the State informing me our tax refund would be delayed 90 days because our taxes were randomly pulled for review. This seemed ridiculous to me. Nothing in my income stream has changed since my retirement 10 years ago!
A few days later I cashed in a year’s savings of loose coins. That night our technical service man came to connect a new device to our universal remote. He informed me our remote was obsolete and we needed to replace it. The cost of the new remote and the two-hour service call depleted the money from cashing in the coins.
This almost seemed comical!
Thankfully within the following week I started getting signs from the tools I use from my toolbox that the storm had passed and better days were on the way.
This morning I read about the universal energy during the past week in one of my resource newsletters. Jennifer Hoffman said" if you had a tough time this last week all of humanity got squeezed through an energy portal that stripped a lot of old energy from our energy field. April should be a better month energetically." Jennifer has a blog “Enlightened Life” and conducts workshops worldwide.
The message from the Daily Word was Divine Ideas:
“ I open my mind to divine ideas. My way is made clear. Be still, and know that I am God!” Psalm 46:10
The final inspiration came this morning from the principal of the school two of our grandchildren are attending. His personal story and the beautiful way he supported, encouraged, and complimented the children brought me to tears. He highlighted their many successes and affirmed their abilities to create an amazing future.
His words truly touched my soul!
I have often heard comments from my readers that facing the challenges of life is easier for me because I am always positive. But the fact is there are many times I have to choose to patiently turn negative experiences into Positive Possibilities.
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Inside every human being there are treasures to unlock.
This week a friend passed on to eternal life. We spent five years working with Larry and his wife offering Marriage Encounter weekends to couples in Louisiana and other states. We also assisted in establishing small communities for couples to meet weekly to strengthen their marriage by discussing concepts they learned on their Marriage Encounter weekend. Larry and Yvonne would have celebrated their 58th Anniversary on May 28. On that date a Memorial Service celebrating Larry’s life will now be held.
Larry's daughter called in deep grief wanting to know if we had anything that her dad had written to or for us. She said she would greatly treasure having a copy of it to remember her dad. Larry was an eloquent writer and was gifted in the way he could express his appreciation of a friendship as he described the unique qualities of his friend in his written words. I remembered for my 40th birthday he had presented “a roast” of sorts at the surprise party my wife had planned for me. It was a hidden treasure I had filed away 36 years ago. I read it yesterday. My wife who is the number one member of my Positive Pops fan club said that Larry’s words written that many years ago describe perfectly the person I am to this day. I am sharing what he wrote with you in memory of a friend who lifted me up yesterday and whose words once again impact my life in a powerful way.
The “roast” is several pages long but I am only sharing a portion so you can get the message of the impact these words had on my life at 40 and once again today. I am somewhat reluctant to share this because he said so many positive things to say about me. Truly it is more about the character and goodness of my friend whose thoughtful words still impact me today.
Life is indeed short. You may want to write a letter to your spouse or friend and let them know what you see in them and appreciate about them. It may open a window into their soul. It may allow them to appreciate qualities in themselves they have perhaps overlooked. Larry left me a treasure, a perception from a very dear friend of a much younger me. It is so heartwarming to me to rekindle my memory of those wonderful years of such a unique friendship. It is also self -assuring to know that I am still that same person, a little older and wiser but basically the same.
Tribute to Jesse at his 40th Birthday Party 1981
by Larry Guidry
John Kennedy’s remarks about some men dream dreams and “wonder why” and others dream dreams and ask “why not,” is perhaps a fitting opening to this profile of a very dear friend. Each of us has witnessed Jesse’s dreaming and his “why not” attitude.
It is indeed further appropriate that Jesse’s birthday and the celebration of Columbus Day coincide. Columbus was a Fifteenth Century dreamed who dared to challenge the conventions of the medieval world. Setting out to find a passage to the East, he discovered a new world without falling off its edge. However, unlike Columbus who steered west to find the east, Jesse takes a more direct route and shoots for the moon, and only rarely falls on his ass.
Legend has it that Jesse came from another planet and possesses supernatural powers and that is why he sets his sights so high and sometimes appears to be flying in and out of the house. But more informed sources relate that he was a normal child, born of earthly parents, and it was the ravages of puberty that left him with indomitable optimism and stupendous energy.
Jeanne’s mother said he was shy and looked like a high school kid. He appeared to be walking on eggs, not water…or maybe he was hovering. (Evidently she had not heard the rumors about his super powers. Lutcher was a town of great skeptics in those days.)
Needless to say, the team of Jesse and God managed to sell Jeanne on Jesse. Jeanne of course, vowed never to reveal the source of Jesse’s power.
(Be it human or supernatural) under pain of becoming an energetic optimist herself. And so it was that they set up their own “little church,” to coin a phrase from one of their friends, and began to create a haven in a heartless world.
My own observations about Jesse are both humorous and heartwarming. He is a Quixote-like person, often jostling with windmills, but very often I discover that it wasn’t his mania but my own lack of perception that created the illusion.
Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.
– Earl Nightingale
We all have passions in life that can lead us to living our dream. Our son has a passion for fishing and the outdoors. To start fulfilling the dream he bought a boat. He dreamed of owning a water site fishing camp to park that would be a nice, comfortable place his family could enjoy. These were indeed big dreams at this point in his life considering his young family and the eminent expenses of educating and raising children. He did not let that interfere with his dream. His love of fishing connected him with two other families who had the same dream. They formed a partnership and bought a water side camp. Our entire family went there this past weekend. The grandkids had a fantastic time. Boat rides on Uncle Brian's boat was the highlight of the day.
We are never too young or too old to experience “Living the Dream.” My next posting will be about how our 14-year-old granddaughter achieved her dream.
For most people talking about their age is not typically a topic of conversation. Even in the “younger” senior years they will often say “I’m too old to start something new!” At the age of 75 I decided to share with my grandchildren, family and friends the practices I have incorporated into my daily life to bring my dreams into reality. My blog is the resource to do this. Much to my delight the readership has increased tremendously in its second year.
Our longtime friends Peggy and Nolan are our ages. For years Peggy envisioned her dream to write and publish a book to share her passion to help others connect with one another in a meaningful way resulting in enduring relationships. In moving forward towards her goal she and her husband Nolan met in several small pilot groups to explore the techniques. They also actively sought out people to assist in the actual publication of her work. Her book is now available. Check out the details of Tell Me Your Soul Story on Amazon. It is wonderful and enlightening as it provides so many helpful suggestions on how to really get to know the people in our lives.
The timing of this book is excellent. There seems to be an overall interest in many churches and communities to foster and support a deeper sense of connectedness among its members. In the Catholic Church there is a worldwide focus on the "Domestic Church," the family. Small groups of couples are encouraged to gather once a month in someone's home to discuss the basics of their faith, exploring ways to preserve these traditions in their family life, and perhaps embrace new enriching practices. Bible study groups in many churches are creating that same environment in an effort to form bonds that go far beyond the meeting.
In our family we have grandchildren from the ages of 7 to 16. They have embraced the tool of the Vision Board to assist them in “Living the Dream.” Yes it is great to start young. However we must remind ourselves that we are never too old to achieve those dreams. I encourage you to take a few minutes to write down what life would be for you to be “Living the Dream.”
“We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
– Joseph Campbell
For those of us in the Christian community this week is the beginning of Lent. The English word “Lent” is a shortened form of the Old English word len©ten meaning “spring cleaning.” It is a welcomed time for those of us living in New Orleans. Two weeks of nonstop Mardi Gras partying has been fun but the change of pace now is also appreciated.
As a kid growing up I made it a practice to give up something I really enjoyed (most often candy) for the 40 days of Lent. Of course on Easter Sunday I got right back into eating too much of whatever I had given up on the first day of lent. Today I have a different perspective regarding the benefits of the traditions of this season. These six weeks offer me the opportunity to implement some changes in my life that will not end in 40 days but will last a lifetime. My theme for the next forty days will be to “release resistance and improve persistence.”
Today both the Church and psychologists are expounding on the benefits of implementing a positive action in our lives rather than having a mindset of what I need to give up.
In the Clarion Herald Archbishop Aymond wrote an article entitled “Focus on one attitude or behavior change during Lent.”
In reading any article or book I highlight the message that speaks to me so that I can go back and reflect on it. The following message from his article really excited me. “I believe in Lent it is important to pick one area of our life, one attitude that God is calling us to change. At the end of Lent, it’s not to say I fulfilled my penance but, more importantly, how I have changed, how I have come closer to God’s dream for me.”
The following are a few excerpts from the article Psychological benefits of Spring Cleaning” by Liv Kelleher.
“Letting go is more liberating than you know. Spring is all about new life and fresh starts. This doesn’t just apply to nature. Take it upon yourself to use this changing of seasons to start a change in you as well. Get rid of the things that seem to hold you back and remind you of an old chapter in your life. If something is no longer has productive value to your life, don’t be afraid to let it go.”
One of the most difficult things for me to do is to let go of things I think should be working in my life and for some reason I cannot make it work. My sales background heightens this challenge. I can remember receiving the complement that I was the most persistent person because I never accepted a “no.”
In my introduction video of Positive Pops I have the balloons that continue to get in my way because of the wind blowing. At the time it was a distraction but I soon realized the significance of balloons in my life. I have a particular practice that has been very beneficial to me. I get two helium filled balloons and write a note to tape on both of them. On one balloon I tape the note of whatever I am releasing and on the other I tape a note of what I am attracting to replace what I am letting go of. This can be a situation, a particular person, an unfulfilling job or anything that is causing unrest or turmoil in my life. This works because when the thought pops up about that person or situation I remind myself that I have already dealt with this by releasing the balloons.
You may want to check out past blog postings. There may be an idea that you can embrace and implement in your life to create positive change. Regardless of your faith affiliation I invite you to participate in the Christian tradition during the next 40 days and implement just one thing during that time that will make a major change in your life and will open doors for living a life of abundance.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
Charles R. Swindoll
Life often throws us curveballs and we are not prepared to catch them. When this happens we sometimes focus on the negative experience and never take time to appreciate the blessings that eventually materialize.
When everything seems bleak and resolving an issue becomes a challenge I go to my file folder of past successes. I have done this for years so I have a large resource right at my fingertips. This practice serves as a reminder that similar issues have happened in the past. It reassures me that not only have I survived them but there have been times where I have even flourished because of them.
In making major decisions I use the process of drawing a line down the middle of my page in my notebook labeling one side “Positives” and the other “Negatives.” I than make a decision based on the obvious conclusion shown in those two columns. This tool has assisted me in making decisions more quickly feeling confident in my assessment of the pros and cons.
In the following memo I received yesterday from my friend from Texas he supports the value of writing down both sides of the experience. It is a confirmation of the importance of writing down both the challenges and successes of a challenging experience or as in this case a week.
NMR’s First Two Weeks in February – The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
“We are in the midst of a momentous event in the evolution of human consciousness, but they won’t be talking about it in the news tonight.”
“Meditation will change your life for the better, enhance your physical health, improve your sleep, and help you achieve your goals, both material and spiritual.”
Supporting the anxiety that is currently present in the world and supported by the news media is our choice. For some reason we have become indoctrinated to believe if we miss the latest update on news on the late night news we will not be able to sleep. In fact it is just the opposite. The negative, anxiety invoking news we see before going to bed for the night interferes with our sleep pattern.
Last night my wife and I agreed to not look at any news programs on television. We went to bed early and I got a solid night of restful sleep. This morning I woke up early full of energy and eager to get several impending projects completed before 7 a.m.
Immediately after my retirement several years ago we all faced one of the worst economic crises in recent American history. As fear and panic became the overriding conversation with everyone along with the bleak picture being present on the news it was almost impossible to escape anxiety. I did not recognize what it was doing to my health until my blood pressure got out of control and I had my first ever panic attack.
This tumultuous time turned out to be a blessing because I incorporated many practices to deal with stress on a daily basis. One is my daily journaling through which I express my gratefulness for the many blessings in my life. This directs my focus and jump starts my day in a positive direction. My wife and I made a commitment to exercise for one hour three days a week. It has been amazing to see the improvement in our balance and strength with our Pilates class, and the increase of our overall energy level by doing cardio and weight bearing exercises.
Last week I talked about my incorporation of hypnosis with my massage session to quiet my mind and allow suggested affirmations given to me in this relaxed state to assist me in creating a life of abundance. Before talking about the next practice I want to share with you a success I experience a few days after my session. I received a call from our CPA wanting to review my tax return. There is always some tension in anticipating the bottom line of receiving a refund or paying additional taxes. She informed me because of the loss on one of our buckets of income I would receive a tax refund. This information supports my belief that these practices work.
The latest implementation in our daily routine is meditation. This has been an on and off practice over the years. Now with more and more supportive scientific research becoming available I am convinced this practice is a necessity. The best time for me is early morning but everyone’s schedule is not as flexible as mine. The book listed below offers a great exploration of the history of meditation and its journey into mainstream American culture using scientific studies to support its value. Even those with the most hectic lifestyles have come to appreciate the need for meditation in their lives.
# 1 New York Times Bestseller
10% Happier by Dan Harris
How I tamed the voice in my head, reduced stress without losing my edge, and found self-help that actually works.
"Things truly got sci-fi when researchers started peering directly into the brains of meditators. A blockbuster MRI study from Harvard found that people took the eight week Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course had thicker gray matter in the areas of their brain associated with self-awareness and compassion, while the regions associated with stress actually shrank."
You may want to consider the benefits of incorporating meditation into your daily routines. A great start is just 5 minutes a day!
“Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with
Repetition and emotion one day become a reality.”
Regardless of one's political affiliations there is a name that creates an immediate negative or positive response whenever it is spoken. It stirs up very strong emotions. For those drawn to fearful thoughts that name will have them almost paralyzed by their imagination. Anger is triggered in many others. And then there are those few who are just amused to observe the drama going on in politics.
If that name currently has that much power it certainly has value to be used in a hypnotherapy session. I have had success over the years using hypnotherapy as a tool for personal growth. It enables me to identify what behavior I want to change and replace it with a new script of my own creation. That means I can change how I react to just about anything.
Six years ago I was referred to a massage therapist who advanced his practice by becoming a certified hypnotherapist. As a result he offers the best of both worlds. The sessions provide deep relaxation and assistance in releasing blocks to living a life of abundance. Corey Schoff, CH, LMT
In my session with him while in a state of hypnosis he offered me the following suggestion. He said that whenever I hear the name Trump, it is increasing your prosperity. Prior to my session we discussed the emotions being stirred up when that name is spoken. I felt confident that something positive would result from this session.
That evening my wife had a cranial therapy session. While there the therapist mentioned the name Trump. I stood up and said “I am so glad you brought up that name! It is increasing my prosperity.” The energy changed, a roar of laughter erupted and the conversation shifted to the experiences I have had that have influenced my becoming a positive person.
The next day the statement of my investments came in and I was pleasantly surprised to see an increase in our prosperity. Great things do happen when you feed your subconscious thinking positive expectations.
Whatever tool you decide to use to change negative input into positive possibilities I think working on the subconscious can accelerate your success. The tool of affirmations, grateful journaling and hypnotherapy all work for me. You may want to select one of them and give it a try for 90 days. Great things happen when we introduce a new idea into our daily lives and give it a 90-day trial.
Dreams are today's answers to tomorrow's questions. ~Edgar Cayce
Whenever I get an idea regarding something I want to accomplish I push forward to make it happen. Unfortunately all of ideas do not receive support or if I am honest with myself they were just wishful thinking. That is why I personally seek guidance by using many of the tools from my tool box before moving forward with a new idea.
One of my most powerful tools is writing down my dreams. There are Messages from my dreams that often greatly influence my personal and spiritual growth. The key to understanding these messages is to dissect the message into key symbols and look up the meaning of those symbols. I use two resources to get insight into what these symbols are saying to me. One is The Dream Book Symbols for Self-understanding by Betty Berthards and the other is a website dreambible.com .
Once I write down the dream I give it a title. I gave the following dream the title “I Can See Clearly.” Tom Hanks was interviewing me in a large room. I was looking right into his eyes as I answered his questions. He said “Tell me about your career.” I said “I was the top creative marketer in the state” then corrected myself and said “in the country.” He then asked me “Why weren’t you an executive for the company?” I loss eye contact with him and felt uncomfortable with my answer as I said, “I did not have a lot of higher education.”
The following are the symbols I pulled from the dream to better understand the message I was receiving:
I really connected with this dream. It supported one of the postings I have on our 2017 Vision Board. My wife and I attended a luncheon seminar given by a doctor that gave my wife great insight into correcting a wellness issue. After that workshop we both said that we wanted to attend more lectures, retreats and workshops this year. That dream gave me the reassurance that we are moving in the right direction to living life to the fullest.
Many people will tell me they do not remember their dreams or they remember just parts of their dreams but forget them as soon as they get out of bed. To get started in using this tool it is best to have a notebook and pen on your nightstand. Write anything you remember about a dream immediately. Prepare yourself for tonight's dreams by putting that notebook on your nightstand. You will be surprised about how much you remember once you start writing.
Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others. Jonathan Swift
I just reviewed the topics I covered in my blog last year and the one I received the most positive feedback on was the Vision Board. People experienced much gratification in seeing their posted dreams come to fruition. This has also been the most powerful tool for me personally.
I consistently post dreams of travelling to exciting places because through travel my passion to experience new adventures is fulfilled. Many years ago I posted my desire to receive an invitation to give a presentation on marketing at an international conference my company had scheduled in October to be held in Switzerland. I specifically stated that Jeanne would come with me. I have to admit that I thought we would certainly have to pay her air fare. In the Spring I received that invitation and all expenses covered for Jeanne to come with me. One year we posted we would love to go back to Lourdes, France. That was the year a friend had a very successful year in his business and surprised the two of us with s trip to Paris and Lourdes. My most recent posting took two years to manifest but our 14-day River Cruise in Europe will happen in a few months.
Our Vision Board has progressed from postings on poster board to a work of art hanging in a prominent place in our home. I highly recommend you consider spending time in these first few weeks the New Year to complete your Vision Board.
The following are some tips we use:
Set aside some quiet time and write down everything you can think of that you would like in your life. Do not make judgements about not being able to afford these dreams. Don’t allow sabotaging thoughts that something will be impossible to achieve. Just enjoy dreaming about what you would like to show up in your life.
You may want to set aside time some time to allow yourself to dream of what you would like to bring into your life.
All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them."
Welcome back to the routines of daily life and fully scheduled days. Many of the good intentions we had in the holiday mindset are now taking a back seat. However we do not want to become discouraged and lose the momentum of this fresh start of a new year!
I have long anticipated the year 2017 in which we will celebrate our 50th Wedding Anniversary. Overall I truly enjoy planning different activities for us and our family to enjoy. However, one of the things that tops them all is planning for a trip. It is as much fun as the trip itself as I research the destination focusing on the highlights and excursions. This builds such a sense of anticipation and excitement.
Doing this same thing with what you would like to bring into your life by year end will get you to your destination in spite of detours that may disrupt or delay success. Lay the groundwork, explore the possibilities. Our 2016 Dream Board postings that we would create the financial abundance for a month-long European trip and a family vacation at the beach to celebrate our 50th Anniversary are now realities for 2017. In January of last year I worked on a roadmap and created a budget to make it happen.
I realize this is huge and there were many times in our early years of marriage that we could only afford spending a weekend at a hotel in our own city. But in spite of how small each accomplishment was then this type of success story encouraged me to dream big and work out a plan to make those dreams happen. Scarcity thinking without a plan to change our mindset keeps us confined and unable to create anything different or expansive.
My intense curiosity motivates me to subscribe to many newsletters on various different topics. I personally do not delve deep into numerology but I read that last year was the end of a 9-year cycle which energetically brought about endings in our lives. This year is a 1 year offering new beginnings. I am amazed to see this already happening in my life. It happened yesterday when my wife visited a new doctor. He was absolutely amazing. The first question he asked was "how much time do you have for me to talk with you." He answered every question, listened actively and gave us such a better understanding of what she is dealing with, and surprisingly respected our approach to wellness regarding alternative solutions.
Also, within the first few days of this year a Marriage Celebration event our team has been working on for months, to celebrate the 2017 years of marriage of those attending, has come together beautifully with all details falling into place.
This Christmas our children gave me a kid’s book as a gift entitled
What Do You Do With An Idea? by Kobe Yamada. A simple thing like a children's book can open our eyes to help us realize life is not complicated unless we make it so. We just need to move forward with our dreams and believe in the possibilities to achieve our goals. One quote from this book from the author to his children "Always remember a single idea can change everything."
You have everything going in your favor to take the first step this weekend to work on your roadmap of plans to make 2017 the best year ever!